12 Aug Lucy’s Story
During lockdown, my husband and I received the joyful news that I was pregnant. We spent those early weeks at home together, working hard remotely but sharing hopeful and secret moments of planning.
Several weeks into the pregnancy, I start spotting, and my GP sent me immediately to the EPU.
I was terrified and alarmed as my husband was unable to come with me for an ultrasound. As he waited in the car park, the sonographer solemnly scanned me, her grim expression revealing our worst nightmare.
As the hospital were concerned my pregnancy might be ectopic, I was not allowed to leave the hospital, and had to tell my husband over WhatsApp what had happened.
He said he will never forget my message – ‘no baby 😟‘ as he sat powerless outside. I’m unsure who this experience has been more traumatic for; myself, living five days of hospital visits and intrusive examinations alone, or my husband, outcast and isolated from the whole process.
We’ve both cried more tears than we ever thought possible.
There are many organisations that offer support to anyone affected by pregnancy and baby loss.
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust focuses on early pregnancy loss through ectopic pregnancy. It is the only charity focusing on ectopic pregnancy in providing such extensive general information and peer support for anyone experiencing the condition. For more information and support visit www.ectopic.org.uk.