James Havelock – Baby Loss Awareness Week

Author: James Havelock

  The last 4 plus years have been difficult for my wife, Liv and I with what the doctors can only describe as ‘unexplained infertility’. Although we took some comfort knowing there was nothing 'medically' wrong, it was hard not having any form of explanation as...

  He may not say it, he may not show it, he just isn’t programmed that way But his heart is broken, and he too carries the grief, through every moment, of every day He lost his baby too   He wipes away her tears, then when no-one’s around he...

  I often think of grief as a river to cross. Since the stillbirth of my twins, I have been following my own stepping stones, seeing which ones can still support me, and which ones are now slippery and treacherous. My stepping stones may be different from...

  Freddie was born at 24 weeks gestation, and he even cried at birth. He was thriving, but at 15 days old Freddie was diagnosed with Necrotising enterocolitis (NEC). The consultant who operated on Freddie’s bowel said he’d had this for about a week before it had been...

  Before lockdown had started, I found out I was pregnant with my second baby. I was feeling very tired, kept fainting, and had bleeding that looked like a period so i was referred to the early pregnancy unit for a scan. I was told everything was ok...

  In 1969 I found myself pregnant. I was 19 years old and not married, but I got married in 1969. I had morning sickness very bad the doctor gave me anti sickness tablets all was fine. When I had my last appointment they said if I...

  Althea was a much longed for baby. One we had tried several years for. Finding out we were to welcome a baby in the summer of 2020 changed everything for us and we were completely ready for this little one to come in and be the...

  My husband and I were so excited to be expecting! We took extra care with everything we did. We told his family the great news and everyone was so happy. Everything was going great! We started planning, then one day, my biggest nightmare happened. My husband left...

  Seven years down the line nothing changes as far as feeling Evie's loss is concerned. Evie was my first born after 15 years of marriage, and seven rounds of IVF, three ectopic pregnancies, one in 2001 that was a very rare Cornual pregnancy that I needed...

I never held Harry, but I have never gone a day without thinking of him. In fact, it was as if he didn’t exist to the rest of the world, unimportant, unseen. Harry was my third pregnancy. I had three-year-old and two-year-old boys.  Harry was due on October...